Hullo... I'm a bit down and I just realised I needed to type.

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First time to General lounge all by myself.  I kinda realized Steam had its limits especially since 2 months by locking me off the community content, discussions, store when it comes time to answer my messages.


On the other hand, I joined this community more recently from someone insisting creating an account here.  When the bedbug episode struck my life a whole year and then Mommy cat died, I dumped a lot in my life just to survive while having kinda all of you, but falling behind on everything, no light table, no social life, no uplifting, no chance, no inspiration, but this forum and a few Steam games. 


I realized since last status I made that they started to be way too long and I was too dissipated in them to come back and correct syntax and typo from both my multilingual keyboard, dyslexia and French.  But even if I have around here a lot of cyberacquaintances, there were a couples closer to me as if they were my family as I realized today.  Because you see, I wondered why I did worried so much about someone being on-line not answering me since a few days, that I started to cry and Daughter cat had to get closer to me.  Then I tried to rationalize it since it was just platonical, why it started to traumatize me so much, get me worried, feeling guilty/ignored that I started to cry?


The answer came strangely, because I kinda felt he was part of my family.  o_O As if an adopted paranoid person who's own brother don't bother returning calls or message could know anything about a human family.


So I don't even know who to text wall anymore or where to do it. I just feel like breaking down.  And I don't want to bother anyone anymore.  I have the impression I would be manipulative forcing myself into anyone's message box now.  But I really feel useless and vain.  I think I will never be able to thank all who helped me trough my Bedbug ordeal. And whatever I do now it is something that was to be done one year ago because...  Well it was like my house, health, work, emotions were turned upside down a whole year and I am late on EVERYTHING even thanks and I can't replace or fix stuff by snapping my fingers and also I am net-nervous (it kinda shows I am an ol' geezer).  So I think the Earth is not ready to wait for me... yet I still need it!


So... I guess I need someone to check upon me a bit apart a pair of cats.  It feels often like if someone was dead each time I realize I have someone who seems to had severed contact with me.  :x
 
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I am happy to see you are here, and know that we will always be supportive no matter what is going on.


I can tell by the way you word your thoughts you are a sensitive human being.


If you ever feel like you need another friendly Canadian to talk to about ANYTHING shoot me a message.


Au revoir
 

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Thank-you.


But...


o_O Do you own La Moufette Mauve?
 

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I'll be honest, I have NO idea what that is :p
 

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Oh my. Marquise you can really calm down. It is good that you have opened your heart to us, I just learned even more about you. Chill out , you are a kind person and you deserve attention and chit chat as everyone else. When it comes to people online though, we get used to them, chat, you know, stuff like that and suddenly one day that person might not reply or will disappear. I used to worry about people that way too. Now I don't though. Here is the part you should be careful to check in your mind all the time.  A person  might not reply for many MANY reasons.


Yes there are some negative possibilities.Yeah of course, someone might wanna be rude to you and not reply. Someone might wanna ignore you, all right.Someone might even got hurt or something.


But there are more possible things to think of.
Like:

  • The guy has no time to reply instantly at the moment, then also forgot to reply to you. (I sometimes forget to reply and I am sorry).
     
  • A person is away from computers for some days because of...
  1.      ...an oppotunity to work away from home he/she took and has not a PC to that place yet.
  2.      ...the person is fed up (not with you, but with someone or something else) and wants to be alone so he/she won't hurt your feelings (being fed up makes us hot headed)
  3.      ...the person is sick
  4.      ...the person is doing something else at that time
  5.      ...the person is not online for any random reason.
  6.      ...job takes more time than usual so the person has to be absent then comes back very very very very tired.

See? It's not that someone is NOT ok just because the person is not responding. Many things can occur. Take me for instance. I see your steam chatting and still didn't replied today, but HEY! Here is THIS huge reply on this forum!!! Wow! Because I had some time! :p
Seriously I hope you are doing fine @Marquise*. I am here, I am all right, but I am looking for a job. I am a little pressed and very tired really.
I tried something out but it was something really lame.
I hope things will go well in the future.
But I will make it in the end! So at least don't worry about me. I want you to focus on making something good in your life. Not sure what it will be, but I want you to make something good. I will be happy to hear about that. Really. :p


Now, what exactly happened on Steam community? I didn't understand what happened, you said it has its own limits. Send me a PM if you like ti tell me what happened. :)


PS:


You know why I was inactive since January for MOST of the people. But still I was "fine" and I am fine now and back. :)
 
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Ahhh, Marquise. I'm so sorry to hear you are feeling so down. I especially feel bad because I had intended to reply to your last status and got sidetracked.
Which unfortunately does happen when people are friends online. So, I'm going to try to organize my thoughts a bit here.


First, I get what you mean by "family". I have my immediate family - husband and kids - but overall, I'm pretty introverted and have a bit of social anxiety, so outside of them, I don't socialize a lot. And in that sense, this forum has been huge to me. Some of my closest friends in my life right now are people I've met through this forum.


Second, I don't know the details (and don't need to know) of what happened with this person in your status, but Dreadshadow is right, there are sooo many reasons that this person might not be responding. When I start feeling this way I always remind myself of an incident as a teenager that taught me a big lesson: One of my friends was being very quiet and withdrawn and wouldn't talk to me much. I thought surely I done something to upset him and instead of thinking what might be going on his life, I was self-focused wondering and worrying over what I'd done. However, it turned out that what had happened was that his father had been arrested for a pretty terrible crime. It was a big wake up call to me, that we never know what is going on in someone else's life and it's so easy to get self-absorbed and think it's something we've done, when in reality it's not likely the case.


Third, I can at least say, I'm glad you're around here. I know we don't chat a whole lot, but I enjoy seeing your posts and I can tell that you are a kind soul from them. Try not to lose heart from this incident. Keep being you and remember that you can please and get along with everyone, but enjoy those relationships that do work.
 

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Yeah, man. Life is an uphill battle, definitely. Sometimes it gets better soon, sometimes it gets better later. But it gets better.


Good thing is, you're here. And if you're here still, there's something left to be done.


Oh, I'm here to! Ping me if you ever need.
 

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This reminds me so much of an experience I had...


I had met a girl on a website called person dot com. in its prime it was a webcam chat side (not an adult one)


I met her one night after breaking up with my fiance, I was on there because i will admit.. i was extremely lonley and not sleeping...
I met Dani, she was amazing.


We talked ALL night about many many things, then all week, then all month for almost a year.


She told me all about her kids, and her family and I felt like I knew her.


She had even offered to send me money for food knowing that I was having a really hard time between jobs and houses and stuff ue to the breakup.


One day, (about a year ago now) I messaged her to tell her some good news, I had gotten a job and i was in a new/bigger house and even had a new car.


She was gone :(


I was unable to find her anywhere. not skype, not facebook, not msn (at the time)


I knew she was a snowboard instructor, I thought maybe she had gotten hurt.


Being the depressed weirdo I was, and wanting to tell her my good news so bad.. I even called hospitals to see if she was injured and unable to reply.


After months of casually looking for her when ever she crossed my mind, I seen a random post on facebook of one of my friends at a wedding.


It was Dani's wedding. :(


Still has no idea if I am alive or dead.


I know this might not be similar, but i felt I should share anyhow because I am a sensitive human being as well, and I know there are a millions reasons someone might not be able to reply to you.


She could have been hurt, but it turned out there was someone else.


The kicker? She was engaged the whole time we were talking :(  
 
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Hi everyone.  I will have to edit this post to accommodate everyone answers. 


Thanks for the sharing I thought of nothing would really comes out of that message when I posted it and really felt abusive and really selfish when I first posted it.


I've the impression of having being killed or tentatively killed somehow in my soul/work/integrity/rights/freedom multiple times in my life.  I must admit it kinda turn someone really alert and very paranoid in the end.  Especially that now, I just saw a windows popping an alert as that a program tried to instant message me and it was windows explorer and it also did something weird like translating a link I wanted to send here to @Skunk it is here I thought you were Vero http://www.moufettemauve.com/index.php/ateliers/ I think I sent her a few students.  I myself would love to go there to do my upgrades over P2 (look the robot I post around often she busks for me.  ;)  )  So now,I let the AV running.  I guess WX is trying to slyly ghoul my Earlier more practical and private non bloatware Windows.


@Skunk So, this http://www.moufettemauve.com/index.php/galerie/ is what a purple skunk (moufette mauve) is doing.  She have less gorish things into her gallery too.  :3  And yeah, I am too poor to do else than make articulated masks out of paper.


That's a really sad story. And she could had told she was engaged. Would it had changed anything? When I lost my significant other I kinda did the same without the internet and well just knew you can't really use peoples as bandages over your heart wounds.  It kinda made me a really sore person for very long.  I mean, we were almost literally shaking heavens and hells to find something to stay alive and folks told us that we had ALLLLL the life in front of us!  Sometimes, I feel on-line, like then my mute mitten Ankara cat trying to save someone drowning in the bath with no one able to understand the plea for help!  (dear Lord all mighty, I love that person and that cat!) 


At least, she is still alive.  It is strange, sometimes I forget about genders, although I can understand both sides somehow.  Usually it strikes me in the face that for binary reasons one companion or an other in a couple WON'T allow/show friendship to another gender.  I kinda understand why. But being a really unusual, I really wouldn't think of anyone to clamp to my physique unless to roughen up! 


BTW, you found your animal handle very well.  I know/knew some skunks and despite how weirdo we might think of them and fleeing them, they are so family axed and nice if we get to know them.  I guess any animal that don't find as primary defense mode tooth/claws/poison/horns have a good root.


Sorry if I liked your story but, let say it was a moving one!


We can't ever recuperate from that emptiness that sets when we feel like we don<t know if we are alive or dead do we?  Let<s hope a lot of good things comes pouring into your life too.  (I vote for kitties!)


@Dreadshadow Sorry I was on your bit when IE had a mind of its own and that was a Big reply.  The AV came clean so I guess MS is doing some REALLY UNORTHODOX thing to my non bloating, non spying OS.  So to be short, I had lost lotsa folks around me and not only like dropping from internet groups and mutual interests.  I guess it comes with age.  And I had a fit also about were health and private information were travelling when on and off-line.  With a praise for Doctors still using their phones and a boo for some medical companies kinda signing our souls to get all our private information IN US while we are treated in Canada without those infos shared to our doctors and the technicians forgot me this month and I am also ignored by my social worker.  Crap!  What's going on?  Even my sacredly cat now grabs one of my toes when my nose gets stuffy in my C-pap!


So yes, I guess Iend a lot of my worries to others because I get scared they are more near the bottom than me while I wonder if they got one of my figurative bricks in their faces or if they can get a foot on it to get out of the water.  So I don't wanna hurt anyone (and you can't even imagine the ideas that got to my mind as to what could had turned wrong. )  For a at person I guess I surely act like a panicked puppy. 


You know I could clean/clear spaces around my apartment recently.  Still have to worry about my kitties.  The new one seems like -against my best will- in need for declawing.  I can cut VERY well cat claws and they trust me while I do it, even him.  But his claws seems to miss a claw structure that pushes and unzip the oldest claw to discard its shell in favor of the new one.  You know, like when you seems to find an empty claw in the floor but it is just the discarded outer part that had since regrown.  Well with him it seems it just cumulates and his walk sounds like a dogs walk and I do understand why he don't extend those monster large (not long) laws often.  Last month I did well in the subway busking.  Although, on every front I feel that one year to catch up.  Especially in the lack of oven department!  But Daughter cat seems to had gain an appetite and attitude. Thought it is cool as she sounds like the new momma at around the house.  I better not look badly at scaredy mister cat or she will be promptly on him!  I guess she would had been a lioness, anything causing me troubles would had gotten trouble back. XD  I at least have lotsa food for now :p  And if when I upgrade to WX (with SBAB) on it, I do hope all that is working well on my computer will still work well :D    Some cats around the place where I get free meals insisted to come around and see me.  o_O ???  I dunno why, theses days even dogs on leash wants a word with me o_O  Maybe they can smell my feelings and tell me all the Earth is till turning around?  Maybe a lot will snicker if I type that even butterfly does that too if I extend a finger to cares their antennas.


Hey, regenerate well and sleep well for that but not too much.  I am a sleepdiver (I got severe sleep apnea) I know what I am talking about.  Also, remember to eat and hydrate yourself well but do not SINK into permanent sleep state.  :D   (I know someone like that and it isn't helping)


Also don't get discourage if a project doesn't work. I believe in recycling experience and back shelving being useful for reuses.


Awwww Thank-you for the THIS answer and the wish for something good.  You know Dread I can't wish anyone you know which critters, but I wish you kitties!  Strangely enough, there is somekind of order that emerges slowly from my chaos and computer wise.  When I am not on-line or in upgrades in both Steam and MS... Grrrr. It goes rather well I intend to get back to Custom Housing after that big $Eg monster.  (pleaseeveryonedonotaskmeaboutmakingitflyplease!) I was intending to get you too as my sprite beta tester.  (You know about my handicap about seeing the frames in an animation in sprites rather than the animation itself.)  And I have a lot of fun powering up P2 in subways...I got someone who donated balloons... :p   Well can't stop P2 to donate them back!  XD


For Steam...pfftt!  Dunno why, sometimes it cannot refresh anything anymore.  Except the library, the chat and friend list and that is it! It can last for a week or two.  So I can PM but not thumbs up your best accomplishments or commentary in the Friend Activity. Another reason I can imagine someone might hate me for!  :p   At least in some mail accounts I can say... err I will answer you next season because my paranoia hate my self confidence in the log-on department.  (Which unfortunately isn't a joke!)


No worry nobody knows about January from me! It is under NDA as far as I am concerned.  Does not mean I am not touched at all and if I think someone needs company I don't even tell them why I worry and I want somebody ringing their way!  ^^  Some folks did it tome once.  It was cool.  But then there was no internet!  But it was really really really cool!


I'm happy you're back and I can't wait something excessively great comes your way and overflow in all directions to everyone around you... AND I WANT NEWS OF IT!  Don't be a stranger when you become president of Greece or something!  :p


@mlogan Don't worry. I kinda have a walltextus syndrome (yeah I made that placeholder name until someone invent a better term for it or show me one). Meaning, I type so much -kinda motor mouth for the screen- peoples won't even read/listen and I will continue on hoping someone catches on and can use the info or reycle or help me around with it :p   Status feed are simply the best.  Except for BIG BIG BIG worries for someone like me.  XD  It kinda tells a little secret with a big trumpet!


That's why when I saw there was a general lounge and it was for all the off-topics I got it there.  Kinda help moderators not get a headache. XD  I kinda realized afterward it was the best place for it!


You are luky to have a real experience as a family because you can understand this better, clearer and explain the feeling better than anyone who don't properly speak English or now face to face with others.  And I got in a few IRL supper with folks hooked on their intelligent phone.  Come to think of it, I'm no more intelligent than them here now but, no other human being interact with me at the moment!  Sad we kinda start to loose the notion of human contact theses days.  I guess that it makes you also a very good moderator.  Because, I've seen quite a bit elsewhere less mature/patient/empathic/understanding ones in groups I kinda will my not set my eyes to for a long while.  o_O  Ish!


Dreadshadow is my RPGMaker sensei!  He is mostly always right!  I kinda lack direction when bedbugging and bad Januaries are at my doors. I have to give him a good thank, because of him I was kinda putted in contact with 3 or 4 individuals on-line who REALLY stimulated my creative cortex and helped to transmit the same to them.


About your teenage life experience.  I had the Awww****! reaction.  I always feel bad for kids of peoples who do wrongs. I mean at a certain age there is nothing else to do but have that on our heads.  Kinda sometimes even not knowing it and being announced one member of your family has done or is been doing something wrong or horrible.  :/  I would also try to melt and hide between the floor tiles.  But I don't think I would ever know how to make life better for someone who had something like that dropped on them.  I mean... There must be something!  I mean, it's like putting the rest of the family emotionally in prison too!  :x


Thank-you Mlogan.  I try not to bother too much Mods and devs especially since I am stuck on the $Eg now (Oh dear even in front, that sprite seemed a bully to do and I've challenged myself to do all angles of it.  Call me masochist!  At least we know how to shut me up; "Marquise* can you make a thousand limbs sprite?" ^^ -I gonna piñata on this one once it is over. Thought even trying to organize a contest about it!-)


I don't believe in dumping peoples.  Even in a society where peoples are considerate as mere replaceable product, I give them a greater value than that.  Heck how many peoples almost got their head hacked with Momma cat in the freezer because I don't treat my deceased pets like an old pair of socks. (It was like this until I got money for the crematorium.)  I usually don't take long to know if I can get a good relationship with any living.  And usually I accept a pet with the tooth and claws that comes with it. I may not like what someone do.  It don't mean I don't like the person.  It is even more true when someone just needs time.  I mean, I get often the elevator door closed to my face everywhere because folks just give up too quick on peoples with tired legs.  Don't think I can do that to anyone else on any level if I know how it feels.


@Mako StarWow I read you are a veteran and see your amount of posts and for how deep and down is the topic, you have all my respect man!  All right!  Will try that.  I don't exchange interests but just...  Well the only thing I would had thought... "Mmmm good phishing bait!" XD  I can't all the time have my guard up like that!  So thanks!  :p  
 
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forget Steam community. I started there too, but felt it was little more than a playground, full of cocky youngsters and half dime bullies.


I wouldn't go as far as calling here a family per se, but its more like a family pension, where like minded people come together, we try to respect each other, and care as well (like Maison Ikkoku).


You're a cool person you know. I like often reading your updates and opinions on game making, even though I'm not always joining in conversations.
 

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Weird to read that.  I saw not so many trolls there.  Pehaps beause I am not as social as I should.  But with RPGMaker I must admit that my contact list exploded from less that half a dozen person since about 5 years to a big around 50 and only 3 are on my ignore list.  And huh... I kinda understand with one royal banned all over troll. XD


But yeah, I got involuntary trolls, non-mature kinda should grow more semi-trolls and some so so gimmegimmegimme trolls that I kinda warned some folks on my list like; be careful that guy/girl is resource monger and not really respecting the state of mind/health (so don't really care of) those she/he asks them to.  :x  We all know how sinkhole it feels, but sometimes after the years of perfecting a paranoid state, we kinda detect them and... Kinda tame ourselves to not bring the figurative gasoline tank into the treads.  I do admit that RPGMaker VX Ace community (dunno for other versions) seems to be the most mature everywhere, than let say just gaming for gaming.
 

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