The Cheerful Pessimist
- Apr 18, 2013
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- First Language
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Mostly I would agree with this. You should never spank a child in anger. A parent who spanks a child should be completely calm and rational while doing so, and the spanking should not be hard enough to leave marks. But there are just as many articles out there, with a very firm psychological defense, that show spankings for young children (younger than 8) are actually much more effective at teaching discipline than just time-outs alone. At a certain age, spankings stop working. Spankings should never be they only punishment. But my unpopular opinion on this is that they are very effective when used appropriately. The problem is, most people are complete numbskulls and don't do anything the most appropriate way.There are many articles that say physical punishment isn't actually good and can be detrimental. Here are a couple:
Do not spank your children
Here's what spanking does to kids
I was spanked as a kid. I couldn't tell you a thing I was spanked for. Even then, I had no idea why she was hitting me or why she was angry. I just knew she was mad and was spanking me. I learned more from someone sharing their reasoning and their morals with me than I ever did from someone hitting me.
I agree to an extent. I'm not pro violence or anything, but you can definitely tell a lot about how someone was raised by the way they socially interact as an adult. People who talk a lot of crap and bully others are probably people who never got smacked by another kid for talking too much smack on the middle school playground.Never getting physically hit (unless you have certain physical or mental conditions that really do mean you shouldn't ever get hit) at least once in your life is probably bad for you, and I legitimately believe it prevents you from being a much better person.