Who Has Guts To Defy Bullies

[Luck Of Kurisu Saimon Des]

As someone who has since childhood  i have become  strong with  exp 100 so who else

 

[mjshi]

Well, I've been bullied quite a bit in MMOs by higher level characters. They camp my spawn point and kill me over and over while I'm still loading in


So what I do is I just keep respawning myself until they get bored and leave xD

 

[Luck Of Kurisu Saimon Des]

Anyone else?


remeber I've  been there before so i have experience

 

[Reavenator]

I used to be bullied a lot in elementary school. Other kids would pick on me, threaten to beat me up, and make fun of my stuttering.


I was tactless when I was a kid (remembering the things I did and said back then make me cringe...), so I suspect everyone used to think I was a jerk. That must have had a major part in it.


I never realized I was doing something wrong, I just thought everyone was being mean to me for no reason.


To get back at them I tried challenging them to fights..................god, I was so stupid back then.


But in middle school and high-school, everyone seemed to like me for some reason. I never really understood why people thought I was so likable, but it made me happy.

 

[Luck Of Kurisu Saimon Des]

As you Friend i advice you to defend yourself only when your life  is at stake 


But dont stoop  to their  level .... i love answering  these  questions 

 

[Makio-Kuta]

My younger self was much better at standing up against bullies in elementary school. Now that I'm an adult, the bullies are all adults too - and I can't stand up against them at all.


My best stand against a bully as a child was when me and a friend were cornered by a boy at the back of the school ground and I twisted his arm backwards (he cried; it was majestic) so we could run away. Junior High, I didn't realize I was being bullied until like 10 years later. :/


Highschool people didn't bother with me much. (actually bullies who were antagonizing friends of mine apologized to me when I got caught as collateral damage.


But now at work, the bullies are adult customers and I just wilt and stutter and never know what to do, so just call a manager. Old people are ruthless when they want to be. 

 

[Luck Of Kurisu Saimon Des]

Imagine getting beat up by 7 still im happy

 

[Lornsteyn]

Well i was bullied in school, too.


More with words than physical.


Sometimes i had to fight, but always one on one.


At least they weren't cowards, who needed help of their friends.


The few fights i had, were always a draw because someone stopped us.


Im really quiet/shy in rl, dont like to talk to people, because i cant trust them, some people think you'd be weak then.


When its not avoidable, i will stand my ground...

 

[Luck Of Kurisu Saimon Des]

So true im 29 so I stand my ground as needed 


But as a volunteer worker its my pleasure to help in anyway I can

 

[TheAlexG]

Ill keep this as short as possible;


I was always a geeky kid in my youth. Now I'm a geeky adult. But as a kid, I would still stick up for myself, and had friends to back me up. 


However, during my high school days, I had one individual who thought he was a tough guys. Would yell profanities and all to intimidate me, which I had none of. Well, apparently he thought it an amusing challenge, least by what I heard, and thought one day, he'd step it up a notch. 


So, one day, on a VERY bad day I was having, he thought he'd try to fight me. I was not in the mood, and told him today was not a good day to pull this, otherwise he would be sorry. 


Thinking himself hot $&@!, he tried anyways, and swung at me. I remember being hit, seeing red, then having to be pulled off the guy, only so he could be sent to the hospital. From that day forward, no one bugged me. Not proud of it, but it sure did do the trick. 

 

[noctiluca]

When I was 6 years old, I was beat up for being a girl. I don't know what this kid heard from his parents, but the rationale was that boys are supposed to be smarter than girls, but I had better grades, therefore I was wrong. It was kind of awful too because he didn't do it himself, but got a tougher-looking classmate to do it while he taunted me.


I got back at him by occasionally mimicking the way he would read when I was asked to read aloud. Must have confused the teacher a bit when I suddenly started reading like I didn't know how (my reading ability was 7 years above grade level at the time...).

 

[TheAlexG]

Pffft! That reminds me of another story much like that, sorta. When I was younger, I could read and write very well, and at some point, someone asked me to do a report for them. Now, he should've known better, really, because as I mentioned, I'm no push over. However, he didn't second guess it when I gladly accepted with a smile, and my friends looked on with a look of confusion. SO, we were supposed to do a book report, and after finishing mine, I did his, in the style of A La Johnny Bravo. For those of you unfamiliar, lets just say there was a lot of "really"s in the report.


Dunce didn't look at it when I gave it to him, and ended up giving it to the teacher like that, which was proof I was either an incredibly lucky child, or he was incredibly stupid. None the less, the reaction and words the teacher had for him when handing them back out, were music to my ears.

 

[Luck Of Kurisu Saimon Des]

Actually the ringleader I'm my case was a girl I was only about 6 or 8 at the time I am sympathetic toward all of you no one should Ever be bullied ...

 

[Olivier]

I've been bullied so much in my life, and ALWAYS get accused of being the bully. Annoying as frick.

 

[Luck Of Kurisu Saimon Des]

I hear you oliver

 

[Square_art]

I had practice in judo, karate and a bit of MMA as a schoolboy. I had fights on streets few times, but it doesn't relate to bullying. It was arguments between us, children who had lots of energy and wish to fight. I never been bullied in my life. But. When I hear a story of bulling or see as someone is bullied my heart is breaking. It's unfair and disrespectful when someone with knowledge and experience of fighting trying to mess with someone who simply wants to live in peace.


When I was 23 I have been living and serving in army for a year. In Russia we have compulsory service. If you are healthy man 18-27 y.o. and not a student (anymore or yet), you have to go to army. So in one unit of army we had people of all sorts. One more thing I want to note, we have very severe and unpredictable (and stupid) law system in Russian army. Some bullies can mess fights often and to be free, and someone else can fight back, broke a bully's nose (or something) and to be jailed for 1-2 years. 


My height is 6'2. I visit gym regularly since highschool. I respect people around me. No one tried to mess with me even in army.  By the end of my serving we had a trip from one city to another. There were 20 soldier, most of them were new to me, but they already knew each other well. I was away from my mates with whom I served before and get along well. So it was new people to me. There were 4 guys from criminal regions of Russia among us. They were like a gang. They tried to bully almost everyone. One of them was born rich. He traveled along Russia and Europe cities in order to have street fights against other football fans before army. He knew if he breaks a law, his parents can buy him freedom. The rest 3 wasn't rich, but they didn't mind to break rules and laws as well. Most of people tried to ignore them and bullying or just tried to walk away. But they didn't stop. I was a witness and I was able to do nothing (due to laws I couldn't fight them, due to army tradition I couldn't report about them).  It was hard to watch. Especially, how they bullied one guy. He was 18 y.o.. Extremely shy person. He almost never spoke and if he did, he did it very quite. I looked at him. I felt like he is mentally broken already, I felt like if I keep just waiting and do nothing he can kill himself, and it looked real. 


Next time they tried to bully him I started protecting him. It seemed that conflict was solved by words. But we all were living and serving together. In few days after this they started trash talking me and tried to provoke a fight. Well, it happened. I slammed one of them to the ground. Another one kicked me in the back. I threw him down too. I was focused do not damage them (do not strike), but it was a real fight, anything could happen. One guy, who I stopped from fighting them before was the first person who rushed in the fight and started to calm us down, started to try to stop the fight. Then other guys rushed in between us and lucky to  everyone this fight was stopped. If it wouldn't, it could be only loss situation to me (break a law and be jailed or be beaten). Thanks god no one had injuries after all. 


Next day our authority decided to divide us all and to send us to different places to continue serving there. I'm happy everything ended like that. I don't know how exactly serving of guys that were bullied went on, but since that gang was divided it's definitely became better (as a single persons those bullies were much more sane).


Now I'm 28. Two years ago I was witnessing a conflict between two woman (around my age) in Moscow tube. It was midnight. They were a bit drunk, but it doesn't matter. They almost had a fight, no other passengers gave a damn. I was standing close to them. I hugged them and said "not worthy to argue". After that one of them started crying (I dunno why) and another one started to comfort her. Odd ending, but either way better than fighting 


We should not hesitated if we see someone is going to be bullied around us, or just in trouble. We should keep in mind that those people have families and they think and care about them, and waiting for them to be home and safe.

 

[Mister.Right]

Bulliers are either punks or immature adults, losers with less intelligent. I grew up in ghetto area where bully is a norm. Youths in ghetto community known well smoke weed, drink, and chase for girls. I went through military as an enlisted where there was little sign to no intelligent among these people. I noticed a huge different in wealthy community or in workplace with most intelligent people or when work with military officer, or senior enlisted.


Conclusion, bulliers are mostly punks, or immature adults, losers with low intelligent. People with intelligent, with physical/skill superior often are hero type, nice, helpful.

 

[Corrupted Ralph]

1) If were talking about real life...


I was never able to stand up to my bullies directly... I have some mental problems that made me unable to realize that I was fighting back. I would often get trapped in the bathroom and get called "LADY BOY, LADY BOY" for my long hair... I would sit in the bathroom crying every day. Since then I have never used a public bathroom.


But in the terms of fighting back... I did it in my own way without noticing it. I would constantly stab other kids (Mainly those who would bully me) with a pencil. It did hardly any damage to them, and I was always the one getting OCS (On Campus Suspension) but it made me happy to see them get hurt... In the end I had to move away because they tackled me to the ground and shoved and unidentified fur ball that was flying around drown my throat until I swallowed it. They were kicking me and hitting me the entire time... they got suspended until the end of the school year, but I could not face that school again.


2) If were talking about games then HELL YEAH I DO! I instantly log off and sit in a corner crying for 20 minutes and then I log back in... BOOM they are gone. I have won


3) Now a'days... I am still bullied. I will walk around my school and get called a enjoyable human being by one person, an idiot by another, and about half the school will say they just hate me... I go to a high school were there is only around 400 kids or so... it makes it hard for me to fit in... I am unable to hold proper conversations and they get aggravated on that point. I have only been in three relationships... and every one of them was a "Dare" for the girl to take... it's hard living my life at school... that's why I use RPG Maker... it lets me take my mind off the world... off my problems... and off my past.

 

[LaFlibuste]

Just keep in mind life in school is not necessarily representative of "real life", or adult life. Schools are very peculiar, closed environments, where you always see the same faces and a reputation can be made r unmade pretty fast. You will likely not see any of these people ever again once you finish school, and as an adult you generally have more latitude to just ignore/ditch annoying people or bullies and hang out with people you appreciate. It's much, much less of a concern.

 

[Square_art]

Just keep in mind life in school is not necessarily representative of "real life", or adult life. Schools are very peculiar, closed environments, where you always see the same faces and a reputation can be made r unmade pretty fast. You will likely not see any of these people ever again once you finish school, and as an adult you generally have more latitude to just ignore/ditch annoying people or bullies and hang out with people you appreciate. It's much, much less of a concern.

@Corrupted Ralph


It's true. Stick to be people you get along well. In Russia we have a proverb. "You are not a Tula Gingerbread to be likeable for everyone". We are human beings. Some people like us and our personalities, some people don't. It's okay. You can meet very different people in school. It is as it is. In adult life you will have much more people like you (usually people with similar personalities choose the same education, the same work, etc.)


At the same time, do not have a set of mind like "I just need to endure this time and then I'll start live my life". You will not see those bad guys from school in your adult life and you will have more people like you around you, it's true. But. You have all the rights to live your life now. You have all the rights to feel joy in your current life. Do not live your past. Past is past. Only current time is real. Just think about what you can do now to make your life better. If there is a risk that someone can bully you, think about what you can do to avoid/to prevent it:


1. Bullies usually mess with those who always on their owns. They don't mess with groups of people. So it's a reason to find more friends around you now.


2. Bullies like to mess with those who don't look like others. We all different in our world, that's absolutely fine for most of us. But not for bullies. When a bully thinks who he's able to attack next and sees a guy with green or long hair, it might work as a red rag works for a bull. So if you choose to express yourself via extraordinary look, you should know, it can provoke them. If you choose to look more like others it doesn't mean you will lose some sort of personality (you still will be you and your mind will be the same). 


3. Increase your confidence. There are many ways to increase it. Stick to people who like you. Be there where you can express yourself (first of all in non-online world). Start a project with some people who have common interests with you.


4. Start go to a gym regularly. Obviously, it will not make you stronger in minutes or in few days. But, it will help you little by little. In few weeks you already notice the changes in you. It also will help you to increase your confidence. Remember "Healthy mind in a healthy body".


5. Be ready to resolve everything by speech. Think what can provoke and what can change someone's mind in advance.


6. Do not forget to smile. The reality is bullies like to mock those who don't look happy. Someone who has a depression or simply upset. We share our energy with people who around us. If atmosphere is neutral and we start think about something bad we start frowning. People who around us will feel the same little by little. If atmosphere is neutral and we start smiling people around us will start feel better little by little. If bully attacks someone thinking "I just don't like that guy" probably that guy looked like a victim from the beginning. Another reason to smile it increases our mood little by little, it's gives a little of joy.


7. Act like adult. Pay attention to point of view of your opponent if you have a started conflict. Be focused to have relaxed conversation. Once again, be confident. If your opponent very emotional one and start raising voice, do not mime. Do not interrupt, and then you can continue speaking even with more quite voice (but with confidence), your opponent will listen to you and calms down. Understand position and point of view of your opponent.


Most of bullies are people who have unreleased aggression (that's biology). That's the reason why bulling exists. Maybe someone has bullied them when they were very young. Maybe they have fears  of something or a feeling of missed success in life, feeling of ruined/unfair life. It all can lead to aggression and to bulling as a result. We can not help them with it (unless we are needed doctors), and we should not look at them with anger, fear or disrespect. They are humans after all as well. 


I hope it will be helpful for you and for people who might suffering bulling  in school/highschool or somewhere else.


One more thing I want to note. Everyone has problems. And that's okay. It's normal to have issues, obstacles, sometimes fails. Every story begins with it. Resolving - that's the story itself.


So many people (especially teenagers) think about own imperfections. differences. Our world would be extremely boring if everyone would be perfect. Without problems. With smooth and unreal past. Everything would be the same. Imperfections and diffidences, that's exactly what makes our world beautiful. We should accept goodness of ourself as we are. That's the way to have a happy life.